In the ’70’s Marlo Thomas didn’t feel that matrimony was wonderful for women. “Marriage is like a vacuum cleaner,” (She) used to say. “You stick it to your ear and it sucks out all your energy and ambition.”
Then she went on a talk show and met Phil Donahue. At dinner after he shared with her that he’d recently divorced and doubted that he’d remarry. Thomas thought “how perfect … a man who thinks like me.” Three years later they were married and have been happily since then.
This took planning and the rearranging of two established lives. “Along the way, we learned something fundamental: that sometimes we all must rethink our lives, focusing not on what we thought they would be but, rather, on what they could be.”
“Had Phil and I been younger, we might have been more impatient and missed each other. But being older — me in my late 30s, Phil in his early 40s — we trusted our hearts and made the effort. For many, love really is better the second time around, but for me, the first time has been just fine.”
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