What Do 50+ Men Want In A Date?

rs_560x415-130522101830-1024.oz.cm.52213Boomers comprise the greatest number of new online dating site users. But, according to Laurie Davis, the Manhattan based online dating consultant behind eFlirtexpert.com, “The biggest obstacle for [them] is searching through matches . . . They want romance and chivalry, and things like that don’t always come across on the screen.” 


So, how do you decipher the essence of one person who will be your next love interest? One way is to have people close to you suggest someone whom they think will be a good partner for you. Dr. Oz does this for Martha Stewart after she joined Match.com on the Today Show with Matt Lauer. For her love of adventure and new experiences the doctor “thought Liam Neeson could help with that.” And he suggested Tim Robbins as another date because of his love of animals.


And to preselect the best possible partner, make a list. Last year Ken Solin wrote an article listing the 20 qualities he wanted in his next boomer love. It garnered over 1,000 comment both pro and con. But, Solin is sticking with his list, stating that “dating is about quality, not quantity, and your list will qualify the best potential dates.”

Some excerpts are: “Kissing Too Many Frogs”, “Rediscover Who You Are” and “The Universal Tool.” “There’s nothing romantic or cool about wasting precious time in the wrong relationships, especially if any were preventable. Smart dating is not becoming involved with someone who doesn’t share your traits, core values, and beliefs.” 


A Foodie Date In Central Park

le-pain-lSpend a summer evening learning to create breads, tarts, scones or biscuits in the Park. Then enjoy your creations with your date at a communal table with a glass of wine. It might be good for a first date.

Class schedule:



Get Fit In Central Park

circuit-v1The Central Park Conservancy‘s Central Park Circuit fitness classes presented by Equinox begin this week. The free classes utilize the Park’s benches, stone steps and hills. Space is limited, however, and members of the Conservancy who bring their membership cards are guaranteed a place in each class.

See the schedule here:


Washington, VA — Weekend Getaway Rivaling Napa Valley or Route 7 in CT

DSC04235In the New York Social Diary, Carol Joynt writes “

“It’s not uncommon among people of a certain age and means to hear someone wax on about their fantasy of an idyllic life after the decades-long grind of making it. The goal is a patch of land in Burgundy, France, Tuscany or California’s Napa Valley, with vineyards nearby, plus good restaurants and interesting like-minded people. The dream is a particular way of life that’s humble and bucoloic, removed from the rat race yet still sophisticated and not idle. A charming home, beautiful view, peace.”

She is describing the town of Washington, Virginia in Rappahannock County home to the Patrick O’Connell‘s renowned Inn at Little Washington restaurant and hotel. Many interesting people have made this area their home, including two former Directors of the CIA and a number of former station chiefs, perhaps because of the proximity to “the farm,” the CIA training center. Other bed and breakfasts and inns as well as shops and gardens abound in this idyllic countryside, perfect for walking … or buying real estate.


Jane Pauley and Barbara Chandler Allen on Encore.org Webcast Friday, May 17th

Jane-headshot_FINAL“Life Reimagined in Color” is the episode of Life Reimagined TODAY this Friday. Jane Pauley interviews Barbara Chandler Allen about her dedication to encouraging children to donate their artwork to help fund art supplies for inner-city Philadelphia schools. Sponsored by AARPLife Reimagined deals with finding “personally meaningful” work in second careers.

Following the broadcast, Jane, Barbara and Marci Alboher, Vice President of Encore.org and author of “The Encore Career Handbook,” will participate in a webcast at 9 a.m. Pacific/noon Eastern. Questions about a second career may sent in advance to the Life Reimagined Facebook page and will be accepted during the webcast.


“Dating Advice for Martha Stewart and Other Over-50 Boss Ladies”

Oct. 24, 2011 - New York, New York, U.S. - MARTHA STEWART attends 'An Evening with Ralph Lauren' hosted by Oprah Winfrey held at Alice Tully Hall at Lincoln Center. (Credit Image: © Nancy Kaszerman/ZUMAPRESS.com)Dating and relationship coach for women over 40, Bobbi Palmer writes a love letter to Martha in the Huffington Post‘s Post 50. Complimenting Martha on her decision to venture into online dating, Palmer affirms that “as someone who found her husband on Match at age 47, I know that this is the best place to find love and romance. So kudos to you, Martha.” 

Noting that Stewart is not growing younger, this is the place to look. Palmer offers “I must insist that you take off your ‘billionaire-media-mogul-I’ll crush all-my-competition’ hat for a minute and listen up.”

Her first tip is that to attract the successful leaders whom Martha undoubtedly would like to meet, she must be kind. “These men are awash in masculine energy. These ‘alpha’ dudes are attracted to w-o-m-e-n. Kindness, softness and sensuality are what make them feel safe being themselves… and feel like a man.” Bobbi reassures Martha that she doesn’t have to have to be too nice, rather combine softness with “all your fantastic-ness.” 

Next come don’t compete and “be a whole person.”

Closing with“Love, Bobbi,” Palmer articulates her belief that with a little resolve and ingenuity, all women 40+ are capable of finding“lasting, fulfilling grownup love” on dating sites.


Martha Stewart Tests The Water In Online Dating

martha-stewart-match-dating.i.1.martha-stewart-match-com-matt-lauerOn the Today Show 71-year old Martha Stewart announced that she was joining Match.com. While she is a legend in the domestic arts, a life partner is missing.

Here are excerpts from her profile: “After recently writing and publishing my new book, “Living the Good Long Life,” I was reminded how central good relationships are to happiness and longevity. Also, I’ve always been a big believer that technology, if used well, can enhance one’s life. So here I am, looking to enhance my dating life.”  

“I’m told that I’m a specific person, and that the efficiency of online dating might be a good way for me to find that needle in the haystack. So while I’m open to all kinds of people, and love to be surprised, here’s what I know I appreciate in a man: Someone who’s intelligent, established, and curious; and who relishes adventure and new experiences as much as I do. Someone who can teach me new things. A lover of animals, grandchildren, and the outdoors. Young at heart.”

This week Matt Lauer assisted Stewart as she went through 1,000 date requests. She returned to his show with 5 printed profiles of men whom she had selected “based on their political views and how ‘pleasant looking’ they are in their photos.” At Lauer’s insistence, she messaged two of them for coffee.

It will be intriguing to hear about her dates.