Evening Kayak Tour For Unique Date Idea

tzoo.g.local.55763.54283.ManhattanKayakView the city from a kayak on this 75-minute New York After Dark tour. Before heading out on the Hudson, there is a brief instruction, then guides lead you past Midtown and the Empire State Building lit up at night. After the tour, enjoy a complimentary drink at The Frying Pan while enjoying its scenic views. Built in 1929, the historic lightship was brought up from the bottom of the Chesapeake Bay before being brought to Chelsea Piers. Lightship “Frying Pan” is listed on both the New York State and Federal Registers of Historic Places, as it is one of 13 lightships remaining from more than 100 built.

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“Ultimate Merlot Class & Tasting”

jpegJoin Roman Roth, one of the founding Long Island Winemakers, for a merlot tasting class at the Wolffer Estate Vineyard. Spend a summer evening sampling seven Long Island merlots and merlot-based blends. The class will be held in the Wine Cellar on Thursday, August 1st from 6 to 7:30 PM.

Click on the link below to sign up:



Refinery Rooftop

d77c421ec1573cd95a272ca31f76ee84Above a neo-gothic boutique hotel in a former hat factory is a rooftop bar offering artisanal cocktails and various small plates to please every appetite. There are 3 areas: an indoor lounge with fireplace, an outdoor bar area with a retractable roof and a patio with a porch swing.

Known for it’s homeopathic cocktails, Refinery Rooftop offers such things as the Luster, a cucumber-gin martini which arouses romantic feelings. Other drinks created with herbs and natural stimulants are mood-enhancing or appetite stimulating. Enjoy the view of the Empire State Building with a special someone and avoid waiting by making a reservation with the Sosh Concierge:



Should Widows & Widowers Only Date One Another?

r-DATING-AFTER-WIDOWHOOD-large570As year 3 of my widowhood arrives on July 31, I look back on this time as a blur of change and longing for my husband. However, there have been wonderful gifts as well. Seeing my adult children from a new perspective; making wonderful new friends, many of them suddenly single as well; and helping to start Pairents, our social media site for 50+ people based upon their adult children’s social networks.

Throwing myself into new activities — challenges, I should say, seems to be my biggest coping mechanism. This summer I’m well into Intermediate Sailing lessons, flying into Racing Sailing next. And, I’m learning to kayak. For those who are into dating, I’ve found an article on dating between widows and widowers by sexuality advocate Joan Price, the author of Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex and Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex After Sixty.

This article spoke to me because of the following quotes:

  • When they are talking with animation and suddenly sink into silence and sadness, I understand.
  • When they bring up anecdotes about their wives, I get it.
  • When they slip into present tense talking about their spouse, then correct themselves, I remember how often I’ve done that.
  • When they talk vulnerably about their grief, I know I can do that, too.
  • When they laugh and talk about their future changes they want to make in their lives, I know what it took to get to that point.

The sudden swing into ‘silence and sadness’ is so present for me 3 years later that I had to share this. Last Sunday, I sailed with a woman who has been a widow for 20 years who confided that it is still awful to be without her husband. But she gets out a lot with friends, sails, golfs and has a business. Another dog-walking friend, also a widow for 17 years, is pretty much in the same mindset.

Joan Price’s piece goes into the differences in dating expectations for all widows and widowers. “How long does it take to be ready to date? I don’t know. We’re all different. Don’t judge us if we think we’re ready, then realize we’re not. We’re not grieving for a time, then suddenly done with grief — it’s a spiral: we cycle in and out of grief. We can feel that we’re truly ready to date, and then we’re struck down by missing our beloved powerfully.” Perhaps we do understand each other best.



Ripped Celebrity Men Over 50

George ClooneyCoincidentally, on the day the news broke that Anthony Weiner has continued his sexual texting exploits long past his resignation from Congress, The Huff Post/Post 50 published an article on gorgeous, fit 50+ celebrity men. And, the first one is a half-naked self-tweet of Geraldo Rivera. “Rivera captioned the tweet that stunned the Internet, ’70 is the new 50 (Erica and family are going to be so pissed…but at my age…).'”

Whatever the reason, Rivera is in perfect shape … and at 70!

Enjoy the photos of all the famous “smoking” guys here:


Snowbird Pairings


Pursuing the topic of our recent blog about avoiding retirement mistakes, I’d like to share Retirement.com’s expose on the pros and cons of avoiding unwanted weather while maintaining contact with family, friends, doctors, clubs, etc. If you can afford to, snowbirding can be the answer to undesirable freezing winters, long dark days, constant rain or sweltering summers.

If you, like me, cannot seem to choose the one perfect place to be, consider selecting two. Perhaps the city and the country, the beach and the mountains, California and Connecticut. A big factor for many retirees will be their tax situations. Many of the southern states have the best taxes overall. Look into Delaware, Tennessee, North and South Carolina and Florida.

Some will want to rent in one place, buy in another or rent in both. The fun part will be pairing very different areas, such as the pictured coastal town of Lahinch, Ireland with its world-class golf course and Claremont, CA, boasting 7 colleges.



Don’t Make These Retirement Mistakes

ranger_img_slide1TopRetirements.com recently posted a followup commentary on their well-received 2011 article on the “Top 10 Retirement Mistakes.” As retirement creates an opportunity for “a partial do-over on life,” thinking it through carefully is critical.

In my opinion, if you follow their 10 guidelines you will hit it out of the park. My favorite is Rent Before You Buy. See them all here:


Couple relaxing on the beach