In 2011, Lynne and Tim Martin sold their central California home, divested themselves of most of their possessions and embarked on their dream retirement. They began selecting areas according to the seasons and living there as the locals do for a few months at a time.
At first family and friends were shocked but now their grandchildren “find (us) infinitely more interesting than when (we) lived down the street.” And this summer, friends from several countries and family are coming to stay in Paris while the couple is there.
Admitting that though the details involved in this transformation were copious, Lynne and Tim are so happy with their decision that she wrote an article about it for The Wall Street Journal. The piece generated such a response from readers and publishers alike that a book was born, Home Sweet Anywhere: How We Sold Our House, Created a New Life, and Saw The World.
Asked about the innovative path which they chose, Lynne responded that many retirees today are active, fit, and hungry for new experiences. “We have retired from making a living every day, but certainly not from LIVING every day.” One of my late husband’s dreams was to sell our home, store our most treasured belongings, board the horses and cats, buy a big boat and take the dogs with us on a yearlong sailing adventure. Walking my little dog now by the houseboats near me, I often think of Marc and his dream. This couple has achieved theirs and perhaps will inspire many more young retirees to go out and enjoy the world … together.
“Research shows that the divorce rate among adults aged 50 and older doubled between 1990 and 2010.” The HuffPost’s Post50 has done it again. They’ve served up a compendium of bloggers’ common sense thoughts on enduring marriages which I found very moving. As a widow whose marriage was very, very happy, I smiled, cried a little and wished the same joy for my adult children while I perused the article.
The list runs the gamut of thoughts such as not being frantic or worrying overly about looks to feeling open about communicating your needs and feelings to your partner. For example, “we tell each other everything, whether it’s good or bad. We never hide anything from each other — ever — and can openly discuss any subject without fear of being judged. We made a pact to do that from the beginning of our marriage (it took a little to get used to, but we knew it would be invaluable) and I think it helped to create the wonderful marriage that we have,” said Cathy Chester of An Empowered Spirit.
Concluding the article is a group of reader’s responses to The HuffPost Post50’s request for their takes on how to have a long and happy marriage. My favorite is: “When you give to the other person, that’s love. When you take, that’s ego. Over the years, both people contribute what they have. … I’ve been married 32 years, and my promise in being with my wife is that I am committed to helping her find everything she needs. If she has a need/problem, it’s mine too. The value of marriage isn’t solely playing a part so much as my wife accepts all my love and I get to be that guy I most like being, her lover.”
LES PHOTO WALK
Sunday, April 13th
30 Lower East Side galleries will be hosting specialty photography exhibits on Sunday, April 13th. This particular weekend also coincides with the AIPAD Photography Show, an internationally revered gathering of photography from all around the world. See the LES website for a list of participating galleries.