Why Long-Term Marriages Can Be So Powerful

Portrait of a happy middle aged couple in bed together“Research shows that the divorce rate among adults aged 50 and older doubled between 1990 and 2010.” The HuffPost’s Post50 has done it again. They’ve served up a compendium of bloggers’ common sense thoughts on enduring marriages which I found very moving. As a widow whose marriage was very, very happy, I smiled, cried a little and wished the same joy for my adult children while I perused the article.

The list runs the gamut of thoughts such as not being frantic or worrying overly about looks to feeling open about communicating your needs and feelings to your partner. For example, “we tell each other everything, whether it’s good or bad. We never hide anything from each other — ever — and can openly discuss any subject without fear of being judged. We made a pact to do that from the beginning of our marriage (it took a little to get used to, but we knew it would be invaluable) and I think it helped to create the wonderful marriage that we have,” said Cathy Chester of An Empowered Spirit.

Concluding the article is a group of reader’s responses to The HuffPost Post50’s request for their takes on how to have a long and happy marriage. My favorite is: “When you give to the other person, that’s love. When you take, that’s ego. Over the years, both people contribute what they have. … I’ve been married 32 years, and my promise in being with my wife is that I am committed to helping her find everything she needs. If she has a need/problem, it’s mine too. The value of marriage isn’t solely playing a part so much as my wife accepts all my love and I get to be that guy I most like being, her lover.”

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http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/04/16/marriage-advice_n_5133153.html?ir=Fifty&utm_campaign=041614&utm_medium=email&utm_source=Alert-fifty&utm_content=Photo 

 

Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Issue Legends Today

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This year is the 50th anniversary of the Sports Illustrated swimsuit issue. If you’ve wondered what’s happened to the original models, the answer is here.

Patrick Kiger compiled a list of the SI supermodels with photos and updates on their lives. Enjoy them here:

http://blog.aarp.org/2014/02/18/si-swimsuit-issue-legends-where-are-they-now/

10 Gorgeous Celebs Graying Gracefully

BAFTA Los Angeles Britannia Awards - Arrivals“People, old and young, are embracing their silver streaks and showing off the badge of aging proudly. The New York Times writer Leah Rozen recently announced “blondes may have more fun, but we gray gals have it made in our shade.” Even Kate Middleton who has the most envied hair of any celebrity has put her gray roots on display.” 

The Huffington Post has created a list of great looking superstars who are proudly sporting their gray locks.

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http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/01/15/celebrities-with-gray-hair_n_4558936.html?ir=Fifty&utm_campaign=011514&utm_medium=email&utm_source=Alert-fifty&utm_content=Photo

 

 

Mistakes Boomer Men Are Making In Dating

slide_194992_438390_freeKen Solin, author of “You Gotta Have Heart, Act Like a Man,” muses about many guys’ “myopic expectations” in post 50 dating. An example is one man’s scoring system — 3 dates before sex; after that the woman is dumped. “What a guy! He’s a throwback to the 60s when sex was mostly casual and rarely meaningful. I would have thought that five decades later every boomer guy understood and accepted that first date sex is no longer on a boomer woman’s menu. Scoring is about getting off not making love. Every boomer woman knows the difference and nearly all prefer making love.” 

Here’s another: “first date sex expectations,” where women are termed angry and resentful if they don’t have intimate relations on the first date. Solin’s response to men who say that is “You really don’t understand why an empowered sixty something woman who helped us end a war, fought for her legal rights, had a career, raised our kids often as single moms, and spent a lifetime building a network of close, supportive friends isn’t flattered by your invitation to sexually satisfy a total stranger? Sure you do, you understand perfectly. You just don’t respect women.” 

It really doesn’t have to be a battle. Read the whole, thoughtful piece here:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/ken-solin/dating-after-50_b_4537697.html

Gorgeous Celebrities Turning 50

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In 1964 the youngest boomers were born. This year, they hit 50. The Huffington Post reports that “in December, Brad Pitt became the sexiest boomer alive when he turned the big 5-0 and in 2014, the boomers are going to make, well — quite the boom with some of the hottest names in Hollywood celebrating their half-centuries.” 

See some of their photos here and enjoy a list of “late bloomers,” such as Laura Ingalls Wilder and Alfred Hitchcock, who made it big later in life:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/12/31/celebrities-turning-50_n_4467351.html